There is something in our shared human experience that pushes us to leave some form of legacy. We are often
not satisfied with living unknown lives and in the shadows. As much as we tell ourselves to stay ‘under
the radar’ and that we should live somewhat anonymously because it is too crass
to be loud and brassy, this desire comes out in various ways. The very success of the social media bears
testimony to the fact that so many of us want to be seen, yearn to be noticed,
and strive for some kind of fame, even if it lasts for the proverbial 15
seconds.
However, there is something to be said of those who have dedicated
their lives to causes that by their very nature are unseen and unnoticed, and
more importantly, something that they never chose by their own free will. These are the events that we find ourselves
brought to face and accept in our lives that we would not have done so if we
were given a choice. Examples of these
abound. Taking care of elderly and disabled
family members, caring for bed-ridden and seriously ill spouses or being
parents of children born with congenital conditions that require constant care
and supervision, or being married to a spouse who isn’t committed and
faithful. We don’t choose these
situations in life, but in a way, we are brought to them, drafted, enlisted
into them and conscripted.
When we face such challenges, one of the biblical figures that we
can reflect upon and draw inspiration from is Simon, a person who was present at the journey
that Jesus made en route to Golgotha.
Matthew, Mark and Luke mention him in their passion accounts of Jesus, they
tell us where he is from – Cyrene. This
man gets special mention and his name gets recorded in the annals of history
for one simple act – he helped Jesus to carry his cross. Interestingly, that Jesus fell three times on
the way to his place of crucifixion is not in the biblical accounts of the
Passion. It is only a feature in the
Catholic devotion of the Stations of the Cross.
While it may not be biblical, it does not mean that there is no value in
this tradition. It is only in John’s
account of the crucifixion that has Jesus carrying his own cross. It is in the synoptic accounts that mention Simon
being tasked to do the cross-carrying for Jesus.
For people who are carrying someone else’s burden in life, Simon is
a model and exemplar. He is, after all,
an innocent bystander at the drama that was being unfolded right before his
eyes. The synoptic writers say he is
from out of town, and we don’t know why he was there in Jerusalem at that
time. But out of nowhere, the soldiers
singled him out and without as much as a ceremony conscripted him into doing
something difficult and challenging, as well as something that would invite
stares and uncalled for remarks and judgments – to carry the ignominious cross
for someone destined for a shameful public execution.
This, Simon did without protestation or debate. Oftentimes, we find ourselves bitter and
resentful that we have been drafted in life to be the cross-carriers of those
whom we have to look after, care for and nurse, and because of this, we may
even have become the target of unfair criticism and judgment by others. What Simon did gained him a place in
history. While being someone like the
caddy of Jordan Spieth or Tiger Woods (in his heyday) was somewhat glamorous,
bringing them into the photographs of newspapers and magazines, they will never
be remembered the way Simon was. Simon
had no choice, but he did it anyway, and look what it gave him. What he received in being named in Scripture
gave him the kind of timeless accolade that every politician, academician and
writer would die for.
While nothing else is known about Simon after the Crucifixion,
contemplating on what he was made to do has great spiritual benefit for
us. We become the Simons for others behind
whose faces hide the image of the beaten and scourged Christ. Simon, we are told, walked quietly behind
Jesus on the way to Calvary.
God could well be asking you, dear reader, to imitate Simon and walk
the same way.
“We don’t choose these situations in life, but in a way, we are brought to them, drafted, enlisted into them and conscripted.”
ReplyDeleteI do agree that there are times when we are called or forced to be "Simon" in Life's journey - (definitely not of our own choosing.) More often than not the suddenness of this call caused us to feel resentful, vulnerable and ill-equipped, even angry & frustrated, chagrin....especially so when the task set before us was not in our plan of things.
When I had to house & looked after a relative, a CA patient for a year and a half, coz she was seeking treatment here, I was filled with misgivings & fear & experienced all the 'negatives' as stated above- but there was no other alternative so I was "drafted, enlisted & conscripted" (like you said)
It was difficult initially coz though it was easy to say - "pray for the grace to see it through" - each day brought its own challenges, its attendant humiliations and a sense of helplessness verging on despair hovered ever so close....
It was then that I realized that I wasn't doing it right. Unlike Simon who accepted the cross, & duly carried it, I was daily questioning it. God's grace was always there for the taking but I was not open to it- so it's wasted!
Grace can't work without the cooperation of one's free will. And the next step is of course the most difficult part - to be humble - to put aside my own plans & preferences & really see my "charge" not as a cross of tribulation but the cross of salvation that has been gifted to me for this period of eighteen months to discipline the ego.
God bless u, Fr
Tessa