Much has been written, talked, tweeted and blogged about the topic
of suicide in the past few days. This
comes especially strong in the wake of the apparent suicide of comedian and
actor Robin Williams who was found asphyxiated in his home. Word has it that he had suffered from
depression, and that he facing the fact that he had to live life with
Parkinson’s Disease. The world has since
been mourning the loss of a comedic genius, and this has sparked off much thought
and discussion about suicide.
I believe that this is indeed a very important topic that needs
periodic reflection and thought, especially in a blog that speaks of things
that concern the spiritual life. It may
surprise some to know that of all the 250 blog entries since I began writing a
weekly reflection in this blog site, one which featured suicide quite a long
while ago and how a Church should respond to it, garnered one of the top
readership numbers. It does seem to be
something that is of deep concern for many out there who are facing
uncertainties in life, and would like to have some understanding of how to
handle some of life’s unanswered questions regarding this seemingly taboo
topic.
The Church has indeed grown and matured in her way of handling
deaths of her children who have succumbed to this illness. And it is precisely because it is largely
seen to be an illness that has changed the way the Church journeys with the
person in his or her death when this appears to be the cause of the end of life
as we know it on this earth.
Suicide, to be truly labeled a suicide (derived from the Latin “sui
cadere” or to kill oneself) and for it to be a mortal sin has to fulfill the
basic three conditions of a true sin. It
has to be a grave or serious matter. It
has to be committed with a full knowledge of the gravity of the offence. It has to be committed with a deliberate and
complete consent of the fact that it is in opposition to God’s law.
With this in mind, not only is it thus rather ‘difficult’ to truly
commit a mortal sin, but more importantly, for those who succumb to death
through apparent suicides and who have their freedom or knowledge impaired or
diminished due to illness (mental or otherwise) are not closed to the saving
and mercy of God. It is because of this
that the Church still continues, thankfully, to give the deceased who have died
through seeming suicides, the dignity of the full Catholic funeral rites
accorded to every one of her baptized.
Where can we find solace when someone close to us has ended his or
her life in this tragic way? There seem
to be two places, one from Scripture and the other from Tradition, which gives
us great hope.
Firstly, it helps for us to read the biblical accounts of Jesus
appearing before his apostles after his resurrection from the dead. He is able to walk through locked doors and
into rooms that are shut. An apparent
little detail that Luke just put there?
I’m sure there is much more to it than that. Luke is trying to tell us that the resurrection
of Jesus has an amazing power to overcome and enter into places of our lives,
which we think we cannot let anyone or anything else in. Mental illnesses and depression often gives
the sufferer reason to block out so many people – and often it is their nearest
and dearest that are left out in the silence.
The power of the resurrection gives us all hope that Our Lord does and
is able to enter into those locked doors of our lives so that we still have
hope amidst the darkness that seem to bind and tie the infirm. And he can do that precisely because he
enters it with love, and not judgement, and bears us his saving wounds seen in
his hands and his side. These wounds are
the doorways through which divine light can enter into the darkened and lonely worlds
of those who are suffering in loneliness.
Secondly, Tradition as seen in the Apostle’s Creed has a rather
alarming phrase, telling us that Jesus “descended into hell”. That God is willing to descend into hell must
give those of us who are the hells of our own a lot of hope. He need not have done that. Yet, his Divine Mercy and love propels him to
do the unthinkable so that perhaps even the unsave-able can be offered salvation. The Church Fathers say that Jesus went into
Hades to free those who had died before Christ’s salvific death and
resurrection opened the gates of Paradise, freeing personalities like Moses,
Abraham and of course Adam to bring them to heaven. But the definition of hell has a much broader
aspect. Many who are confined to themselves
in their inability to hold on to their sanity are also living in hells into
which Jesus also wants to descend into and give hope.
All said, it is ultimately the divine generosity and charity of God
and his mercy that makes salvation and forgiveness possible. In the incarnation, God not only lived for
thirty over years in our world and in our human flesh, but he also witnessed
often the vicissitudes of human living in meeting the broken, the sick, the possessed
and the dying. The compassion of Jesus
didn’t end with his resurrection. He
does continue to be the one who has the unique ability to judge with compassion
because he also sees the world from the side of the one being judged. This will be Divine Mercy at work, and Jesus
is Divine Mercy, writ large.
Finally, we must never forget the words of the Hail Mary, especially
where we pray that she will pray for us “and at the hour of our death”. Much of suicide not only is taboo, it is also
something that we cannot understand.
Mary at the foot of the Cross of Jesus on Calvary gives us something to
hold on to in our moments of apparent despair and unclear seeing. She chose to stand under the cross instead of
demanding to understand the cross. When
we make that choice to stand with Mary there, we too may not have all the
answers, but in our action of faith and love just standing there with her, we
too will open ourselves up to the mercy of God that is nailed to that cross,
and take shelter in the shadow of the cross.
Jesus is willing to go through helll to save me after dying on the cross. What else can i ask for. I only hope that my faith remains in me whatever the challenges.
ReplyDeleteIn the aftermath of Robin William's death, this is enlightening and calming. We do have our times of depression, despair and even hell. And you've opened not just a crack or window, but a glowing doorway of faith and hope, that God, in Jesus and with Mary, will never abandon us in our moment of need, but is with us to the end of it every time. Eat well, Fr Luke. Ignatius & Florence.
ReplyDeleteWent through the dead valley and given a new life by God. In His mercy, I am given more time to do good and not to dwell in my past. Father Luke, pardon me for using your reflection to think loudly to challenge my life to draw closer relationship with the Lord. I thank, Mother Mary for praying to the end of my time on earth.
ReplyDelete“All said, it is ultimately the divine generosity and charity of God and his mercy that makes salvation and forgiveness possible.”
ReplyDeleteAt our Book Club session this morning- on one of Max Lucado’s book – on the woman who washed Jesus’ feet – the sharing was lively but amicable - for the group has grown to include more men and so we were able to benefit from their interesting contributions. Though what was apparent was the theme of Forgiveness – Divine and human, what came through on later reflection was the Divine generosity and compassion of the Father.
I recall what you said sometime back about how our human fear of “not having enough” makes us stingy and petty in sharing our gifts, resources, time and talents and so we become judgemental...........deciding who is deserving or undeserving of our love or ‘good works’.....and so our understanding of His generosity and love is a projection of our own very limited human and frail understanding indeed! Divine generosity invites us to let go of these fears, trusting that ultimately He will meet all our needs.
This is quite a radical teaching but I believe that the woman who washed His feet was truly touched by Him/His teachings so much so that there seems to be sheer ‘abandonment and extravagance’ or largesse in her giving. There seems to be a certain joy and peace in submitting to this act of generosity and love for she did not seem self-conscious or perturbed by the ‘exalted’ company she was in, and she being a ‘gate-crasher’ at the party! If anything she has ‘self-knowledge’ and I believe it is this understanding of self that makes her able to kneel at Jesus feet, trying to return love for Love.
God bless you, Fr.
tessa