I must admit with some hesitation that I used to view the approach of Easter with a certain tepidity when I
first became a priest almost 15 years ago.
Not that I didn’t believe in the Resurrection and all that it holds for
us. But looking back at my first few
years in ministry, I realise that I had a rather weak and almost vapid
appreciation of the depth and power of the Resurrection. I must have preached the garden variety of
“God-has-vanquished-sin-and-death-for-us-at-Easter” homily, and hopefully, my
words had some positive impact for the person in the pews. But I must also admit that just a few weeks
into the lengthy liturgical expanse of Eastertide (50 days to be exact), the
intensity of this truth and its impact would wane somewhat when the humdrum and
monotony of the daily grind set in. Did
my words of relishing the Resurrection vaporize with the onset of life
itself?
Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that our humanity seems
to set itself for short-term celebrations rather than long-term
observances. The onset of the age of the
Internet doesn’t make it any easier to retain important experiences such that
they truly make a lasting impact on our lives either. Just apply this to something as simple as
telephone numbers. We used to remember
so many peoples’ phone numbers in our heads.
I know I did. But with the advent
of the mobile phone where each of us carries in our pockets a fully working
computer, the memory in our heads have largely been replaced with the memory in
our pockets. We seem to have become very
passive in the retention of anything of significance, and live only for the moment. Perhaps this could contribute to our
inability to hold on to something truly significant, and to see it played out
in bits and portions over an extended period of time, like the span of our
lives. The narrative of wanting this
‘short and snappy’ seems to inoculate us against this.
I am quite certain that we have a pressing need to always try to see
the resurrection of Jesus in ways that are new and different. In fact, what the resurrection of Jesus
promises us is precisely that – that there is always a chance for a newness
restored, and a chance to start over, and to be reset. As long as we live, hope is not empty,
because neither was the tomb. No
betrayal is final, and every sin can be forgiven when the heart is set
right. There is no unredeemable loss.
I think we have a lot of trouble believing in the ultimate
reset. Resurrection is not about one
day’s rising, but a daily event that sees it being played out in a myriad
different ways. Part of the other
problem, I believe, is that we have immunized ourselves against surprise,
newness and any vestige of freshness. As
a race, we humans have a shared tendency to fall into cynicism, depression, and
general malaise. The resurrection gives
us the possibility and the energy to rise from all that, again and again.
I like what Gilbert Keith Chesterton (a.k.a. G K Chesterton) was
very fond of saying: Learn to look at
things familiar until they look unfamiliar again. There is a lot of wisdom in this.
Actually, I would say that gratitude and familiarity are strangers, but I couldn't find this from any stock images, so this had to suffice - Fr Luke |
A similar but less punchy phrase that could refer to the same truth
is that familiarity breeds contempt.
This phrase isn’t half as good because it only states the problem. It
doesn’t provide a solution.
What we need to do is to find new and innovative ways to ensure that
we spot and shatter the illusion that is before us, and Chesterton is spot on
to say that familiarity is the greatest of all illusions.
It is imperative that we slowly admit to and give up the illusion of
familiarity in our lives, and this pertains especially to those who we are in
constant or regular contact with. When
we do this, we keep at bay the cancer of ingratitude and disrespect. It is this cancer that eats away at
marriages, friendships, communities and the nucleus of the family. When each person is no longer seen as a respectable
and respected individual, but someone who is just there. This is evident when we think we know
everything about the other person, his or her quirks, likes and dislikes,
preferences and pet peeves.
This is evident too, when titles of respect are dispensed without
much thought. Perhaps I need to explain
a little here. I have a dear priest
friend from New Zealand who has told me that he has dispensed with his
parishioners calling him ‘Father’. I
have heard his explanation of this – he feels that this title separates him
from his flock, and that he wants to be seen to be on familiar terms with those
he leads. It breaks down barriers.
Perhaps. Yes, to a certain
extent, I can see his point, and I respect his views. But in the light of what I have just written
about familiarity, I also have seen that it has its blind side, which is an over-familiarity. When I relate to my parishioners, the very
reason that I do not tell them to ‘drop the ‘Father’ no matter who they are is
really for the benefit of both – theirs and mine. For them, it reminds them that I have a
vocation in their lives other than being ‘one of the guys’. This is especially true when we realise that
nothing destroys relationships more than a contemptuousness born of familiarity. It reminds us of our roles in society and in
life. It is also for myself – to remind
myself that my insertion into any community and family has a spiritual
dimension too, and this reminds me to respect boundaries and keep things
healthy and whole.
So too is this truth just as pertinent when seeing the
resurrection. Familiarity is really an
illusion, and one way to look at things familiar till they look unfamiliar
again is to overcome an illusion of having seen it all. Easter is really about seeing that there is freshness, and that there is surprise even in the mundane, and
that even people who are alive anew can be mistaken as mere gardeners. Easter showed us that even familiar gardeners
need to be looked at again and again till they too become unfamiliar – so
unfamiliar that it is Christ we eventually see.